Having a baby is often described as the happiest time of your life — which can make it especially isolating when it doesn’t feel that way. Postnatal depression is common, it is not your fault, and it responds well to treatment. Recognising it is the first step.
Postnatal depression vs the “baby blues”
Many new parents experience the “baby blues” in the first week or two — tearfulness and mood swings that pass on their own. Postnatal depression is more persistent and more severe: a depression that develops during pregnancy or in the year after birth (together these are called perinatal depression) and doesn’t lift by itself.
It affects a significant number of parents — including fathers and non-birthing partners — and it says nothing about how much you love your baby.
Signs to watch for
- Persistent low mood, tearfulness or emptiness
- Loss of interest or pleasure, including difficulty bonding with the baby
- Overwhelming fatigue, or being unable to sleep even when the baby sleeps
- Anxiety, panic, or intrusive worries about the baby
- Feelings of guilt, worthlessness or being a “bad parent”
- Irritability or feeling disconnected
- Thoughts of harming yourself or that your family would be better off without you
If you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, please reach out immediately — call PANDA on 1300 726 306, Lifeline on 13 11 14, or 000. These thoughts are a sign you need support, and help is available.
Getting help
Postnatal depression is very treatable — with psychological therapy, sometimes medication (options are available that are compatible with breastfeeding, which your doctor can discuss), and practical and social support. Speaking to your GP, midwife or child health nurse is a good first step.
For specialist input, our online psychiatry service offers telehealth assessment Australia-wide, and you can read more about perinatal depression or book an appointment with a referral.
This article is general information, not medical advice. Perinatal support: PANDA 1300 726 306. In a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or 000.